Ok, i’m not bright with my forthcoming sis-inlaw, most 2 life time my H2B got a call from his junior brother to feature that his spouse is pregnant, i don’t rattling tending for kids (one of the reasons ground i’m not having whatever children junior than 18 at my wedding) and she didn’t crow me when i got geared so i didn’t feature anything to her when she said she was meaningful but what has rattling prefabricated me prefabricated is she has finished this kinda poop before to intend discover of sight my H2B’s family, her child module be cod around the instance of my wedding, i conceive she designed to intend meaningful today as a think not to become to my ceremony and i undergo she’ll essay to kibosh her economise from reaching likewise (they springy in Melbourne, we are in Adelaide).
She doesn’t intend along with my H2B’s match miss and his mum. When my H2B’s incommunicative got mated in Feb this year, she didn’t come, she claimed she was meaningful backwards then likewise then same 1 hebdomad after she said she had a miscarriage, i don’t conceive she was modify meaningful in the prototypal locate coz when my betrothed and i visited them in town in Xmas terminal year, she told me she was feat to attain up whatever defence not to go to her incommunicative in laws ceremony coz she didn’t intend along with her.
fsil (Future sister-inlaw) also has bipolar modify and she doesn’t verify drug for it, if she stops my H2B’s brother from reaching to our wedding, I’ll never hit anything to do with her again, she’s finished another manipulative things in the past.
What would you do in my situation?
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I was in the same boat when it came to my wedding. my husbands brothers gf was due around our wedding, and she said she wasnt coming (which was no skin off our nose, we dont like her) but they had a fight with my husbands parents and he told us the day b4 he wasnt coming. and he was part of the wedding.
i now dont talk to him at all, because i can never forgive the way he treated not only my husband but his family. as for them they broke up, so he got his own back.
but you have to remember it is yours and your hubbies day, and the people that matter will be there no matter what, and your brother in law is a big boy and has to make his own decisions and if he cant be there for his brother then thats his lose.
as upsetting as it will be for your hubbie and his family just remember your there to show your love for each other and who turns is a bonus.
good luck and i hope things really work out for you….
Well don’t listen to the guy in the first answer, you don’t wanna kill her, and just ignore her back, because I had this done to me, same details not pregnancy though, moving house, anyways just ignore her back if she is really a ***** don’t invite her to the wedding, or invite her and pretend to like her
Tell the rest of the family she is giving you trouble and see if they can help you out with some solutions.
I have sent you an email with some contact details. For a small fee you will never have to see this girl again.
You have to be the adult and go congratulate her on the baby. You know she is bi-polar without meds so that is the reason for some of the behavior. Just be nice and take the high road on this one. You don’t gain anything by being mean to her. I’m sure she is jealous of you so just be nice. Everyone in the family will love you for it. And then you will truly win.
it sounds as if there’s nothing you can really do. Congratulate her on her pregnancy, yes even though she didn’t congratulate you and let it be. Don’t let her ruin your day. Focus on the good stuff and the love and family that surrounds you and by all means don’t get caught in the “we hate her” club. you aren’t even in the family yet.
Damn, what an *** of a situation to be in before getting married. Well, firstly I hope you have the FULL backing of yr man when you talk to him about it all. Frankly, I would elope, think about it ??? Certainly cuts out a lot of family issues you just don’t need. I agree, sounds like she pretended to be pregnant, a little too convenient. People like this are not worth yr energy and time. I would try and have as little to do with them as possible but the support of yr future husband is needed here too. He needs to step in and shut it down. They haven’t got the right to upset you.
Take care and good luck.
Allow your fhtb to handle it, if you start off on the wrong foot w/ his family, you will not be able to make it right for a long time.
Dont do something you will regret.
Invite her and have your husband talk to her husband and let him know how important it is for him to be there.
IF she is sick, then she needs prayers…try to take the hight road, life is full of roadblocks and difficult people, getting married is just the begining and remember the event is about the two of you…who comes is part of it, but should not be the center of your attention…try to focus on what is positive about the wedding and let the chips fall where they may
A couple things…
1. Getting pregnant isn’t easy, so planning it to get out of your wedding is rediculous (I’m 8months pregnant).
2. Her missing your step-mother’s wedding is lame, but that’s your step-mother’s affair, not yours.
3. Why do you want her to come in the first place if you find her so annoying?
I’d let it go. They’ll be bigger things to deal with before your wedding is through. If you’re this worked up over one family member than at this rate you’ll be a wreck by the time of your wedding. Stop and enjoy the process of being engaged and happy in the fact you found the one person you love enough to spend your life with… ignore the other stuff.